Okie dokie girls (this one is specifically targeted at my ladies today, but definitely applicable to men too!) this has been prompted by a few too many borderline undiagnosed eating disorders in my clinic recently, and something that really bums me out! I'm not trying to be righteous; any one of my girlfriends (and boyfriends! And my brothers! I've complained to anyone who will listen) will tell you that in previous years, I have HATED literally everything about my body. I've been every different kind of weight range while on the PCOS hormonal roller coaster, and I'm here to tell you that I still hated my body when I was at my skinniest! The self-loathing does not leave when you get to your goal weight, or even below that. I still have days when I bemoan my broad bricklayers shoulders, my humungous hips and chunky thighs, thick ankles, weird toes, pick a body part and I will tell you what I hate about it! BUT in more recent times I've been working on my perfect body, and man, my body is PERFECT! So here are my tips for getting to appreciate your perfect body too:
-Be grateful. Everything is relative. I got broad shoulders. Really broad shoulders. They are the genetic legacy of my beautiful angel of a grandfather, and they suited him really well, but on me, if I wear anything that isn't strictly tailored, I look like a poorly disguised man (and not in a good way). But do you know that these shoulders are invaluable for lifting 30kg bags of horse feed well above head height? And backpacking unhindered throughout the entire world? And can carry 2 children or one medium sized adult very easily? And thank heavens for my stout little chunky legs! They are not the mile long legs of a Victoria's Secret model; and thank god, because these legs have walked across more countries than I care to number; including 5-day hikes through the Peruvian Andes, 6000m above sea level; they keep me firmly on my horses, I still have both of them, and they create the perfect pedestal for my ass. Be grateful for every single part of your perfect body. And it is perfect. Right bloody now. Stop bemoaning what you don't have. Your body is working so hard to maintain a healthy equilibrium and keep you happy and healthy! It is your very best mate so stop being mean to it and calling it fat (please).
-Don't speak negatively of another woman, but especially of her physical appearance. In fact, start paying everybody compliments. There is no doubt in my mind at all that when you comment negatively about another person's physical appearance, that that has a negative affect on your own self esteem. No doubt. It serves no one. It doesn't make you feel better or a better person. All it does is create a really awful method of comparison between you and her. Start paying perfect strangers random compliments in the supermarket. Both of you will walk away with happy hearts. Negativity on others breeds negativity in yourself. I truly believe that.
Practice being grateful for your body for allllllll the magical things it does for you every day, and start projecting positivity about your own and other people's physicality. Do it for a month and you will know in your heart that you and your body are indeed perfect!